Virginia Satir identified that about 4.5% of people typically adopt the leveler attitude, which some consider an optimistic estimate.

Levelers are authentic and consistent in their beliefs. They honor their own perspective, acknowledge others’ viewpoints, and consider the broader context of situations. Unlike the other stress-related stances, levelers display no signs of internal conflict or avoidance. They come across as credible and knowledgeable, speaking clearly with facts. Their body language is balanced and symmetrical, often centered around the midsection, reinforcing the impression of honesty and reliability. Congruence is key here — their verbal messages align with their nonverbal cues.

Being a leveler requires the courage to be genuine — openly expressing true thoughts and feelings, even when it might be uncomfortable or unpopular. It means having the bravery to voice honest concerns or criticisms when others might be pretending everything is fine. For example, when asked the dreaded question, “Does my bum look big in these pants?” a leveler might respond honestly but kindly: “I don’t think these are the most flattering.” In contrast, someone less direct might simply say, “They look great.”

The leveler’s approach aims for win-win outcomes. It focuses on problem-solving and finding practical solutions. In negotiations, levelers concentrate on facts and the core issues rather than personal attacks or emotional manipulation.

They take responsibility when they are wrong instead of apologizing just to please others. They assess situations objectively rather than blaming others. They understand when abstract, technical language is appropriate — such as when speaking with experts — and when playful, asymmetrical behavior can be useful without being dishonest or distracting.

Example of a Leveler in Action

If late to a meeting, a leveler might enter and say:

“I’m sorry for being late. Has my delay caused any inconvenience? Where are we up to, and how can I help move things forward?”

This response acknowledges the feelings of others while keeping the focus on productive outcomes.