Understanding NLP States – Foundations of Our Reactions

In Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), the term state refers to the combination of mental and physical conditions we experience at any given moment. These states are shaped by our interaction with the outside world, our physical well-being, and our thoughts and emotions.

How States Influence Us

Our internal state acts like a filter through which we perceive and respond to events. For example, if we’re feeling tired or hungry, we’re less likely to handle stress or setbacks well. These perceptions can influence how we behave or what decisions we make—like opting to rest instead of attending a morning meeting.

How States Change Naturally

We shift between different states throughout the day due to changes in things like:

• What we eat or drink
• How much oxygen we take in
• Our sleep-wake cycle
• Environmental stimuli

For some, the switch from sleep to full alertness is like flipping a switch. For others, it’s more of a gradual awakening—like waves gently reaching the shore.

Recognizing the Clues of State

States also show up physically. When we pay attention, we can notice changes in:

• Breathing patterns
• Heart rate
• Posture
• Facial expressions
• Voice tone and tempo

In NLP, the skill of observing these signs—especially in others—is called state calibration. Being able to recognize subtle changes in someone’s state can dramatically improve communication.

Taking Control: Shifting States Intentionally

We can learn to guide our internal state, especially in key moments, to gain better control over outcomes. The goal isn’t to force a positive state but to access the most useful state for the situation.

Matching States to Situations

Think of it like this:

• Calmness is great for solving complex problems but not ideal in emergencies.
• High energy is perfect for action but might be a hindrance when patience is needed.

So instead of labeling states as good or bad, it’s more effective to ask: Which state will help me succeed here? NLP offers tools like state elicitation to access the right one when needed.

Types of States

• Emotional States: These come from how our nervous system interprets experiences—whether we go into fight-or-flight (sympathetic) or rest-and-digest (parasympathetic) mode.
• Attentional States: These relate to how focused and responsive we are. Being on “autopilot” might make us miss important cues.
• Filtered States: At times, we tune certain things out to concentrate on a task—sometimes missing other key information in the process.